the reason we did not go for buddy boss is it has these weird slugs
https://www.buddyboss.com/support-forums/topic/group-members-are-not-being-displayed/
what we wanted is
domain.com/forum/this-is-my-question
we never wanted subpages like
domain.comforum/this-is-my-question/topic/nature/this-is-my-question/10
default WordPress comment link is acceptable for example
domain.comforum/this-is-my-question#10
of course, this is not suitable for large threads but I make sure to close any discussion under 10 comments so there will be no need for pagination or lazy loading.
CloudWays+Cloudflare enterprise will help me to achieve after load speeds + Redis for WordPress will handle the extra load.
are you building a WordPress block theme? if that is the case it would be easy to use with a regular WordPress theme without diving into buddy press